Here's a link to the sermon Rabbi Cosgrove delivered October 18th 2025 so you can read it or watch it for yourselves.
Below is what I wrote and published today in response in my Facebook post :
In this sermon, Rabbi Cosgrove urges Jews to vote for the right candidate putting their Judaism, which also includes Israel, first and foremost, not selfishly thinking what's best for themselves living in New York, America.
Principles matter, he says. The 'breaking point' (my original 'breaking point principle' quoted back at me with a twist on it) for him was when Mamdani spoke at a synagogue saying his administration would include Zionists even though he himself is not a Zionist.
I agree: Principles matter! This is why I have to take a moral stance against those who, despite being educated, are so unethical and full of hate that they would rather slander someone and accuse them of doing something they didn't do. I take a strong stand against such immoral individuals. I call them out!
But what really caught my attention in his sermon was when Rabbi Cosgrave said:
"I had you at hello"
to the congregation meaning, I think, that they were at the synagogue of their own choosing and happy to have him as their rabbi because they think the same way as him so are inclined to vote the way he does. They are 'cut from the same cloth'.
However, this expression is totally out of context. It is solely used by two people who have fallen in love 'at first sight'. And indeed they are the very words I said to Susan (Sue) James (Professor Emerita of Philosophy). "You had me at hello".
Is Rabbi Cosgrove a mind-reader from afar?
She had me at our 'first hello' while I was a mature student still registered and attending a different uni from the one she was lecturing at, and well before I accepted the university offer at the university she was at.
I think we both fell instantly in love with each other. These things happen. You can't tell people they mustn't fall in love. Just because it doesn't fit your prejudicial narrative about lesbians, so what, that has nothing to do with us.
Our love for each other preceded my becoming a student where she was a lecturer. Therefore, our relationship was not and never has been a student/lecturer relationship. It has always been a relationship between two women, one an athlete, a tennis player, the other a lecturer, who suddenly, unexpectedly met and fell in love the moment their eyes met.
So, Sue didn't have to convince me of anything or try to grab my attention because she already had my attention and my heart. So she would have always been speaking to 'the converted' to use Cosgrove's phrase.
Therefore, Sue didn't have to 'do' anything to make me fall in love with her because she already knew I was in love with her so, even if she, inadvertently, were to appear to 'flirt' it would have been very welcome by me!
In a homophobic environment, as many unis are, just looking at each other for more than a quick glance is considered flirting. How insane is that! And was something applied to gay men back when it was illegal to be gay, equally insane! Besides, you can't cross apply gay men's behaviour onto lesbians. That's just 'nuts'!
Our love, therefore, was nothing like the typical female 'straight out of school' student/male lecturer relationship that everyone worries about whereby the two date each other, see each other all the time, and jump into bed with one another. Those need declaring to the department because, let's be honest, that's a romantic love relationship that could end in an unwanted pregnancy ruining the student's degree aspirations.
Anything less than the above is not considered a relationship so doesn't need 'declaring' because that would amount to 'thought police' in action if you had to do that. That's beyond ridiculous and unworkable.
Sue and I put our relationship 'on hold' for the duration of my degree so I could totally focus on my studies and not have personal, romantic distractions!
Anyway, as soon as I could I sought Sue out. She didn't seek me out. I wanted to see her and ask her for her advice on how to tackle the ridiculous harassment/stal**ng I had to suddenly deal with because, since we loved each other, I could trust her to have my best interests at heart.
I don't think they've ever forgiven her for caring enough to listen or for giving me the opportunity to study at BBK for a pure Philosophy degree while still an athlete. How 'sick' is that! Get a life! I had all the right qualifications and was already at university, albeit a different one.
That's a universalizable rule, ethic and principle: If someone has the qualifications they're entitled to the uni place irrespective of any emotional attachment or whether someone has fallen in love with somebody.
Indeed, it would be unethical to deprive them of the opportunity of a place on the course simply because you have fallen in love with them so it may be inconvenient for you to do so.
As for Rabbi Cosgrove mentioning having a hierarchy of love, and identities I'm not sure what Rabbi Cosgrove is 'on about'. I don't have such a hierarchy.
For instance, my Jewish identity is not more important to me than my lesbian identity and my love for Israel and Judaism is not greater than my love for Sue.
I 'pinned' the Manchester synagogue terrorist attack on my facebook page because it was very important news, of national interest, of Jewish interest and, as an activist fighting against antisemitism, it would be very remiss of me not to 'pin' it. And, I am only able to pin one post at a time on this personal Facebook account unlike Instagram, which allows you 3 pin ups simultaneously. So she wasn't 'unpinned' as such, I was just addressing a recent major incident in England.
As for Bernard Williams entering his sermon, I'm not sure why he came into it. He called him a 'moral philosopher' which he was i.e. his specialization was moral philosophy which is also one of my specializations, and this despite Williams being non-religious (so what's the fuss over agnostic philosophers these days?) and making off with someone else's wife leaving the husband with a 'chip on his shoulder' ever after. Grow up! These things happen all the time.
Nonetheless, Bernard Williams was surprisingly popular at uni given they were a moralising department. I remember having to learn his stance in Ethics modules but it wasn't solely the 'saving your drowning wife' or stranger one. Since Williams 'ditched' his wife for a stranger who was someone else's wife, Williams obviously prioritised romantic attachment over and above a 'wife'.
So one has to bear this in mind too when assessing the import of his thought experiment and whether it's universalisable. If you understand it through strong love attachment then it's universalisable. It'll work across a variety of examples and thought experiments if the guiding light is the strongest love attachment. Hence, when his stronger attachment was to his lover not his wife (not that either were drowning!) he prioritised his lover, and she became his wife.
The thought behind this hypothetical drowning example is you obviously save your love attachment, hence you don't need to think about it. It's a natural emotional response that shows that emotions can also be ethical. It's not just rational deliberation that counts as ethical.
Whereas a Kantian would stop and have one too many thoughts. Kant's detached, cold, moral rule tries to calculate which outcome best serves the Categorical Imperative. Meanwhile, the wife (love attachment) is drowning. 🙄 Kant's approach doesn't appeal to me.
However, I'm not sure Rabbi Cosgrove followed through with this example. Because suppose voting for the one who is pro Israel also meant going against the opposing candidate who would significantly improve your wife's personal situation in NY. Which would Cosgrove choose?
Bernard Williams (particularism) would prioritise his wife's interests, assuming they still love each other. Kant (universalism), on the other hand, most likely wouldn't. He'd want that extra thought.
These are two different schools of thought. You can't advocate both simultaneously in ways that clash and without at least sketching how you'd resolve any tensions or contradictions. Hence, Bernard Williams doesn't fit the overall sermon.
So which would Rabbi Cosgrove choose? You can't have it both ways. Cosgrove is merely lucky that the universal principle (fighting Antisemitism; defending Israel; his and his wife's Jewish identity) also works in their personal favour (particularism eg not having to put up with an increase in antisemitism where they live).
Hence, Cosgrove hasn't solved the moral dilemma because he hasn't presented a moral argument that can be universalised (Kant) because he's put the personal element into it as well (Williams) i.e. as a Jew, as a Rabbi rather than it's just the moral thing to do eg fight Antisemitism and anti-zionism irrespective of identity. Otherwise it accidentally implies: All Jews vote according to their Jewish interest but all non-Jews don't have to bother voting in a way that benefits Jews if it doesn't also benefit any social groups they personally belong to or any identities they personally possess. This works against the value of allyship.
Furthermore, in Political Philosophy you vote for the 'general good'. Rawls would say you vote under the veil of ignorance. You have to have that extra thought. An antisemitic country becomes everybody's problem and is a hostile environment to not just Jews but also other minorities regardless of whether you are Jewish or not.
Rabbi Cosgrove has also jumped priorities comparing two very different entities - an individual v a state and group identity.
Bernard Williams could reply: You can't use my example to say it's of limited value or to say that I'm wrong because you'd argue that you'd save Israel rather than your wife. But that's a Strawman Fallacy because Williams would argue back that he wasn't addressing this unusual dilemma, therefore, it's an irrelevant example and doesn't undermine his point.
My stance would be balanced which, I believe, to be an original philosophical stance 'hot off the press', one which I've always held and taken for granted until today when I looked closer and saw the way philosophy has the binary particularism v universalism with no middle ground.
So what's my stance? The Liba Kaucky 'universalised particularism' argument:
I'd 'do' a Williams and defend / save Sue because I love her (strong romantic attachment) but I'd also do the objective defence of her, by pointing out that, irrespective of romantic love attachment, it's also simply the moral thing to do. The truth is: She didn't do anything wrong or unprofessional, quite the contrary, and that's a fact. Anything else is fabrication, immoral and unjust. That's a principle that can be universalised: Don't 'shaft' the innocent!
I'm intrigued to hear Rabbi Cosgrove's next sermon.